Its been a long while since I last met the gals for a leisure day out. Perhaps, sometimes we were too pre-occupied with our work, sleep and partners...I am trying to balance these ...

Met Jen n Beth for buffet lunch at Bar & Billiard Room in Raffles Hotel. Food was so-so (fortunately there was staff discount!) but as always, the company was great. Hanni just woke up when we arrived at the restauarnt so we started without her. The birthday gal was not there due to last minute "unfortunate happenings" .. hope she is feeling better now...

Went to Delphi to help Jen choose her wedding band.. very heart-warming to see so many young couples in joyous discussion with the consultants regarding their wedding band designs.

After hearing Jen spoke about all the cost involved for the wedding preparation, I start to wonder if a frill-less wedding is possible. Why do we need to save so hard and in the end, spend it all in a single day? Though the wedding day may be one of the most important day of one's life, will any of the guests remember the card that you sent, the wedding favours that you gave or the number of crystals that was on your gown 10 years down the road? Will they remember that the food was not that great or that you went through so much trouble to work out the guest list? Are all these fuss over the wedding a self-fullfillment act or is it simply to please the people around us?

As much as I wish to have a beautiful wedding ceremony, I figured that I will not spend too much on "specially designed" wedding cards & items. Couples print their pretty wedding photos onto customised cards and church booklets, but friends will probably not display those in their homes and would feel bad about throwing those out. After the wedding, these become white elephants. Though email invite is a bit impersonal and unacceptable to the elders, but I think it serves well as a RSVP tool! Hopefully by the time when I am preparaing for my wedding, email invite is already widely acceptable norm! That will defintely save some bucks - printing, stamps, envelopes ..haha..!!!

To each its own, people differ and may just want the best for their own big day.

For me, I would rather spend the money on a nice long honeymoon and renovation for the my matrimonial home cum lovenest. Probably thats selfishness, wanting to spend money all on ourselves only! That is the practical side of me!

Like what the church always preach, "a wedding is a day, a marriage is a lifetime". Building a strong foundation for the relationship and working on maintaining that to last a lifetime is most important. So, was really glad that Deaerie and I went through Engagement Encounter and will attend Marraige Preparation Course when he return. :-)

Back to yeaterrday...we end off the afternoon with a drink at Bar Stop and Jen was toying with the idea of holding her hen's night there! The day passed really fast and I totally enjoyed myself, - the comfort of hanging around the gals, doing things without having to worry too much about whats next, totally "chilled-out"!